3 questions to reflect on the year

3 questions that helped me make sense of a difficult year

December 29, 2025

As 2025 ends, three questions are helping me reflect and process everything that happened—the challenges, the growth, the painful lessons, the beautiful moments. This hasn't been an easy year. Not for me, and not for most people I know. But here's what I've learned: difficult years teach us the most when we act…

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Here’s 5 minutes of peace and quiet

December 22, 2025

You likely have a million last-minute things to do right now. So let's keep this simple. I recorded a guided visualization for you—a mini meditation to give you a short break and help you reset. Simply hit play and sit back. [audio mp3="https://2brighteyes.com/wp-content/uploads/Relax-holidays-25.mp3"][/audio] …

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Why I needed more than one wake-up call

December 16, 2025

It’s the end of year and if you’re feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, it’s easy to blame it on the end-of-year stress and busyness. Sure. You have a lot going on and you’re trying to navigate social obligations without adding too much. You’re prepping for the Holidays and getting last-minute gifts. I get i…

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It’s not you. It’s winter.

December 10, 2025

It’s 7am and the alarm goes off. You’re exhausted but there’s no time to sleep longer. You’ve got things to do. You wonder why you’re so tired but everyone else keeps going so you guess it’s just you. It’s not you. It’s winter! Well, that and the fact we do way too much on any given day—but that…

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My boyfriend’s comment changed how I show up

December 2, 2025

I’ve struggled being fully myself for years. As a highly sensitive and intuitive person, I’ve often felt the need to pretend I was ‘normal’. For years I thought that in order to be accepted and liked I had to be some toned-down version of myself. Being entirely yourself can be scary. We’re often worried wh…

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What I did with a surprise day off

November 24, 2025

What would you do if you suddenly had a day off? Recently I had a full day meeting planned with peers but it was canceled because the host was sick. So I suddenly had a day off. Guess what I (and the others) did? Yep, catching up on work. Granted, I took things slower and stopped earlier but I didn’t take the day …

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5 signs you’ve lost touch with yourself (and what to do)

November 19, 2025

Losing touch with ourselves is more common than you might think. As I shared earlier, I lost touch with myself but it happened so gradually, so sneakily, that I didn’t notice until a series of wake-up calls showed me how far I had drifted from my true self. I want you to catch this earlier so here are five crucial…

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Small homecomings: free audio practices to come home to yourself

November 11, 2025

Two weeks ago I shared a very personal story about losing myself and how I found my way back. I mentioned the breakthrough that helped me realize that "Coming home to yourself" is the foundation of everything I do in my private mentoring and online programs. Many of you reached out saying how helpful and insightful …

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Why you can’t think straight when you’re stressed (and 3 solutions)

November 5, 2025

I heard myself say, “I can’t think about that right now.” There were what felt like a million things vying for my attention and when my mother asked what time I would be there for dinner I simply didn’t have the bandwidth to come up with an answer. So I told her I would get back to her the next day. If you 

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This is how I lost myself

October 28, 2025

How do you lose yourself? Not all at once. Not in one dramatic moment. You lose yourself one decision, one step at a time—every instance you say "yes" when you mean "no". Every moment you take care of everyone else at your own expense. Every time you push through when your body is already exhausted. That’s…

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