Frequently Asked Questions

Losing touch with yourself means you’ve adapted to expectations and obligations for so long that you no longer hear (or know) what you want or need. You say ‘yes’ when everything inside you says ‘no’, tone yourself down (or up) to fit in, and do what’s expected instead of asking “Is this what I actually want?”

It happens slowly—one yes at a time—so gradually most people don’t notice until their energy, health or happiness forces them to. You didn’t get lost because there’s something wrong with you. You got lost because you were taught to leave yourself behind.

→ This is how I lost myself

There are five common signs:

1. You say ‘yes’ when you feel like saying ‘no’.
2. You’re so busy doing what’s expected that you never stop to ask “Is this what I actually want?”
3. You doubt your instincts or ignore your intuition.
4. You’re not entirely sure who you are or what makes you happy.
5. You look successful (or at least like everything is fine) on the outside, but you’re not entirely happy on the inside.

In addition to these five signs, perhaps you’ve already received a clear nudge like an illness, breakup, layoff, burnout or any other type of wake-up call.

→ What to do when you’ve lost touch with yourself.

Comfortably miserable means you’re not quite happy where you’re at, but not yet unhappy enough to do something about it.

And that’s what makes it so dangerous: a crisis demands action, but comfortably miserable never forces you to change. It just… continues. You function, you deliver, you smile in the right moments—while drifting further from yourself one manageable day at a time.

→ Stop being comfortably miserable.

My definition of scary excited is when I’m about to do something and I’m really excited about it but also a tad scared or apprehensive. Hence: scary excited!

I believe we need to be scary excited regularly because it’s a sign of growth. It’s an indication you’re venturing outside your comfort zone and are trying something new. If you don’t you’re getting complacent.

In Dutch we have the saying “Standing still is going backwards.” Which indicates that you need to move forward/grow/evolve in order to not be worse off. Like in nature where things are either growing or dying—literally.

→ When was the last time you were scary excited?

A sensitive soul or highly sensitive person (HSP) has a biological trait that causes them to process sensory information more deeply and thoroughly than others. This isn’t a disorder or condition, but rather a normal variation in about one-fifth of the population. HSPs typically notice subtleties others miss, are more easily overwhelmed by intense stimuli (like loud noises or chaotic environments), process emotional information deeply, and often have strong empathic abilities. This trait is innate and has been identified across many species, not just humans.

Because their brains process information in more depth, it impacts how they live and work. I know from experience that it’s easy to lose touch with yourself when you don’t know how to manage your sensitivity. To find out whether you are a sensitive soul or highly sensitive person (like I am), you can take the free Sensitivity Quiz here.

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A signal spot is the “weak” spot in your body—the first part to flare up when you push beyond what’s healthy.

It’s the first sign your body gives you that you’re off-balance and should slow down. Whether it is your stomach, a headache, stiffness in your lower back or a sore throat (which is my personal signal spot), it’s usually the same part of your body that caves first. Whenever your signal spot acts up, it’s not an invitation to override the discomfort with an aspirin or to ignore your body. It’s a moment to pause and reconnect to your body and what it needs.

Ignoring the message your body gives you risks it turning into a more serious health issue. That’s the wake-up call you want to avoid.

I created a simple, powerful tool to measure your energy and you can download the Daily Energy Inventory for free here. This tool shows your basic energy level and, even more important, where you are losing—or gaining—energy. Having enough energy is crucial for anything you do and it starts by knowing how much energy you have and where it’s leaking away.

That ‘where’ matters. Lack of energy is usually the first place you notice you’ve drifted from yourself. Knowing your energy level is step one. Understanding what that reveals about what might be off in your life is where the real change begins.

Yes, and that’s the heart of my work: coming home to yourself consciously and deliberately, before a wake-up call forces you. I know because I needed more than one. I burned out at 24, spent three years doing everything right at the body level — and still needed a second wake-up call at 27. Because the real cause wasn’t my lack of energy. It was that I had slowly gotten away from myself by doing everything that was expected and required, I was fitting in and taking care of everyone but me.

A burnout is usually a combination of factors. Please don’t wait for a wake-up call to force change.

→ Don’t wait for the wake-up call

Your body sends the warnings long before your mind admits them: headaches, poor sleep, brain fog, irritability, colds that keep returning—and needing willpower for things that used to flow. The tricky part: you’ll be the last person to notice you’re at risk, because pushing through has come to feel normal and the changes are so gradual that they are hard to notice.

→  How your body is signaling burnout.

A Life Transformation Mentor guides the whole person—life and work, inner and outer—back to who they truly are. My work offers hope with a compass: intuitive guidance back to the you who feels energized, calm, and aligned—at home in yourself again.

Where most approaches work at the mental level, my mentoring works on all levels: physical, emotional, mental and energetic—because a change in one area ripples through everything else. This isn’t one-size-fits-all formulas or endless advice; it’s reconnecting you to your own strength, clarity, and energy in a way that’s both profound and practical.

And if you’ve done a lot of work on yourself but results don’t stick, it’s likely the underlying energy hasn’t shifted. That deeper layer is where I excel—because when the energy shifts, everything changes.

→ More on Life Transformation Mentoring

I’ve supported everyone from elite athletes to people going through a divorce, changing careers or simply being unhappy about their life. And the common thread is that life, success, or circumstance have made them lose touch with who they are.

This often shows up as:

• Saying ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’.
• Taking care of other people or your work at your own expense.
• Pushing through on willpower when your body is depleted.
• Looking fine on the outside but you’re not happy on the inside.
• No longer wanting to pay for success with your health and your relationships.

The examples in this video are real questions I supported clients with:

Whether you’re navigating life’s turning points, learning to trust the timing of your life, or you simply feel you’ve drifted away from yourself—I’m here for you. If you’d like to explore how I can support you, you’re welcome to book a complimentary Clarity Session.

My mentoring blends razor-sharp intuition with business experience to get straight to the core of what’s off and create lasting change on all levels, not just the mental one.

I lead with love and each session is tailored to you and your needs. I don’t believe in standard frameworks, limiting theories or putting people in boxes.

Some sessions we do deep healing work, others we create practical strategies, and each ends with action steps you can implement right away. Deeply personal and wildly practical.

Typically clients feel a major shift after just one session and often say, “I feel like myself again.”

This article describes the 7 ways my mentoring approach creates real breakthroughs.

Clients dare to say no, trust their intuition more, set clearer boundaries, have more energy and feel more comfortable in their own skin.

Like the client who received an unexpected raise and a dream job opportunity within days after our energy work. Or the workaholic who by session four had taken a day off from work to spend with her kids. She said, “If you had told me this in session one, I would never have believed you.”

As one client said, “You should warn people that they might actually start to enjoy their life.”

You can read real examples of transformation from my clients here. And of course there are many reviews on my testimonial page.

My private mentoring program consists of eight one-hour sessions via Zoom, usually scheduled every 2-3 weeks and completely customized to where you are and what you need.

Investment details are shared during your complimentary Clarity Session, where we’ll also discuss whether private mentoring is the right fit for you now.

You can read more about what to expect from private mentoring with me here.

Yes, many of my private mentoring clients come to me after years of personal development work, when results don’t stick because the root cause or underlying energy hasn’t shifted.

They understand the concepts, have done the therapy, read the books, taken the courses. Working on that deeper layer, so things transform from the inside out, happens to be something I excel at. You can read reviews from private clients here.

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