Is Withdrawal your Coping Mechanism?

May 6, 2014

This is something I see happen so often. In fact, the more spiritually aware people are and the more sensitive, the more often I come across it.

I’ll paint you a picture.

We’re looking at someone who is highly sensitive, most likely more sensitive than he or she is aware. What (s)he does know is that being around other people is draining.

You recharge best by spending time on your own (away from people). You often feel misunderstood—people don’t really get you. You easily pick up emotions of other people or you’re impacted by the energy in a room, and it often hurts. Sometimes even physically.

What you probably don’t know is that most likely you have developed a coping mechanism to deal with your sensitivity. In order to avoid feeling all these emotions and especially feeling them fully, you have learned to disengage. You found a way to be just present enough in your physical form to be able to function.

How do you know if this is you?

Any of this sound familiar?

If so, it means you are not fully present in your physical body. You have withdrawn most of your energy so it is not as painful. It allows you to be present enough to function but not feel the full blow of all the emotions and energies that are around you.

And it has served you for quite a while. Chances are it is the reason why you are still here and haven’t checked out entirely.

The problem is that it is no longer working! It is backfiring. You are no longer feeling safe, satisfied or at peace. Maybe you never did.

The truth is that you can no longer continue to numb yourself like this. It is hurting you and it is damaging your physical body, which is not getting the nutrients and the energy it needs to function and stay healthy long-term. So it has to stop.

You need to learn to handle your sensitivity actively, and embrace it.

That’s something I address in my recent book Radiant: How to Have All the Energy You Need to Live a Life You Love.

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