How to focus on what you DO want

December 17, 2019

Want to learn how to focus on what you do want, rather than worry about all the things you don’t want to happen?

What you focus on you attract. That’s what you’re feeding—literally. It’s how your brain works.

Like when you’re skiing or driving and you spot a big tree and you really don’t want to go there, but you keep looking at the tree. Guess where you’ll end up?

Exactly. Smash in the middle of the tree.

That’s how it works with everything you concentrate on.

Your brain will go “Oh is that what you want? We can arrange that.” And it will find all kinds of ways to steer you to whatever image you held in your mind.

Your brain doesn’t distinguish on whether you do or don’t want the thing you’re focusing on. It simply follows orders and aims for whatever you feed it with.

Did you know your brain makes no distinction between whether something is actually happening or whether you’re dreaming it up, either?

Athletes use that power to visualize the perfect race. What’s so cool is that by simply visualizing a certain physical exercise your muscles literally get stronger!

That’s a powerful tool—but remember your brain focusses on nightmares and daydreams alike!

So the key is to feed your brain with only those things you want to happen or create.

I know that’s not always easy, especially when things aren’t going your way or you’re busy or even ill.

Fortunately I know something to help you with that 😉

One of the easiest and most powerful tools is to be grateful.

TIP: At the end of your day take a few minutes to reflect and think of at least three things you are grateful for, and write those down.

A lot of research has been done and the power of gratitude is heavily documented:

And last but not least: practicing gratitude helps you feel better—even when your outer circumstances remain the same.

Remember all those times you thought ‘I’ll feel better when…’  [whether that was being in a relationship, improving your health or finances, have less stress at work etc.]

Now what if you didn’t need to change any of your circumstances to feel better?

You can!

I’ve seen these changes happen firsthand with my individual clients and with participants of the international Gratitude Project I’ve hosted four times.

I recommend you embrace an attitude of gratitude—you’ll benefit from that for the rest of your life!

PS If you enjoyed this article, you might like to read my book Radiant: How to Have All the Energy You Need to Live a Life You Love. Read more here

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