Being committed but not attached is one of the hardest things to do—but also one with lots of power.
Being committed but not attached means you’re focused on the broad picture outcome, on the WHAT, but you let go of the HOW and the WHEN.
This goes for everything. Whether you want to reach a certain income level, attract x new clients, find a passionate relationship or improve your health.
All of these things are possible, with commitment and focus, with taking inspired actions, with being aligned.
But you have to let go of the cursed how. You have to trust that things are in motion and that as long as you keep placing one foot in front of the other that you’ll get there. You are on your way.
We often forget life is a process and we want to jump from achievement to achievement. The end result is what we focus on, while all that matters is enjoying the journey every single day!
I had to remind myself of that this week. I had become so focused on where I wanted to be that I forgot to be present. At times I forget that life is happening for me, not to me. And I forgot that all is well, even when it feels yucky.
The yucky is telling you to refocus. It’s your signal that something is off—you’re not in the flow and you’re invited to shift something. Shift your perspective, shift your focus, shift your energy.
When you can let go of attachment to that specific outcome, let’s say a certain romantic partner, and commit to the broad vision, magic happens!
I’m not saying it’s easy, but if you can say:
» I’m looking for a romantic partner, and it would be great if it were Joe, but I’m not attached that it has to be him because I trust the right partner is available for me no matter what.
» I intend to bring in three new clients this month, and I have just sent out a proposal, but I’m not attached to whether this client says yes.
» I choose to find a new home, but I’m not attached that it has to happen this year, I trust the perfect home will show itself to me in divine timing.
Then you’re truly practicing this!
Just to be clear. By not being attached I don’t mean you won’t care. Of course you’ll care!
You’ve come to like Joe and you’ll be sad if he turns out not to be your next boyfriend.
You’ve had a wonderful conversation with that potential client and you see how you can support her, and you’d love the opportunity to work together.
You’ve grown out of this house and you long for a place surrounded by nature. But you’re NOT ATTACHED!
That means you’re not putting extra pressure on yourself or these people to move towards a certain outcome. Because you choose to trust.
You trust that the Universe has your back. You trust that you are on the right path as long as you listen to your heart and stay open to intuitive nudges.
The difference is subtle but huge!
It’s something I’ve mastered in several areas and am still working on in others 😉
So when you notice that you are attached to a certain outcome, try to place your focus on the big picture and allow yourself to see that your big vision is not dependent on a certain person.
It felt important to share with you because I know it’s so easy to get caught up in living our life and forget we’re a soul having a human experience. So much is demanded of us—and we demand even more of ourselves—that we can lose track of what is truly important.
Here’s to being committed but not attached! 🙂