If you are reading this, chances are you are more sensitive than most people. Many people think being sensitive means being weak. I know that’s what I have thought for years. No wonder I didn’t want to be seen as sensitive—it was never a compliment. More often a complaint.
I was trying to fit in and go with the masses. People told me to try harder or simply adapt. Even recently someone who is very close to me said, “Yes I know you are different, but you are the minority here so you can at least try to adapt to us.”
What?! That’s what I’ve done most of my life and that’s what’s made me miserable. Trying harder and pushing myself past boundaries is NOT the solution! Neither is it for you.
- You have often felt like the odd one out and have wondered what’s wrong with you
- You have pushed yourself harder and further until you had nothing left to give (perhaps even to the point where it had a negative effect on your health)
- You’ve beaten yourself up about not fitting in
- You are used to holding very high standards for yourself
- You often have To Do lists running around in your head
If you recognize any of this then it’s time to find out more about where your boundaries truly are, so you know when you cross them.
For me it had gotten to the point where I was trying so hard to be someone I was not that my physical body could no longer keep up with me. I had to learn how to take care of myself both energetically and physically. And I learned it meant I had to do things differently than most people.
About 80% of the population is less sensitive which means the ways things are generally done—the way everyone is used to—is geared towards the majority. This means it often doesn’t fit me and probably doesn’t work so well for you either.
We simply need other things to function well. More alone-time for example.
I had to learn to respect my own boundaries first, before I could expect someone else to respect them too. Which basically meant I had to discover first what my boundaries were.
So if people are crossing your boundaries, are not taking you seriously, or think they can do what they want without respecting what you need, or if you keep pushing yourself beyond the point where it is healthy or desirable, then it sounds like time to stand up and learn more about how you can support yourself. So you can feel better and have the energy to do what you came here to do.
If this resonates than my online program SWEET POWER Energy Management for Sensitive Souls is for you. I will teach you the three foundational principles that have literally saved my life. It is what I need to take good care of myself and has helped me understand what I need to succeed and feel good. These principles helped me finally have time and energy left to enjoy my personal life.
“Iris’ program made me realize there was nothing wrong with me. I am just a highly sensitive person. I am now much better at grounding, staying centered and recognizing when my boundaries are being crossed. The changes I see in my life are a deeper awareness of why I get tired and having tools to change this. This has changed my entire day and life. I realize now why I have been resisting that new level in my business. I was absolutely not wanting to put more work on myself that would drain me. I was in self-preservation mode. By doing Iris’ three step process I feel I can conquer anything.”
—Shelly Byrne, Covington, KY, USA, climtreeswithearthjoy. com