Last week I was in Saratoga Springs, NY for a training retreat. This picture is of me and Shelly, a fellow participant and dear friend. Several of the other participants asked me how I was able to be fully present without being drained by sitting next to other people. And how I could participate without being overwhelmed by all the emotions and transformations that were going on for everyone, given that I am so sensitive. And how I was able to deal with people that drain your energy.
And I told them this is really something that I had to learn, and had to learn the hard way I must say. I’ve learned to really keep other people’s energy out of my system and no longer be bothered by it. Where I used to become drained by being in groups I am now able to focus on what is going on and is being presented, and not worry about losing energy all the time. This gives me so much freedom! I am so glad that I have mastered this and really cherish the amount of space and energy it has provided me.
I often hear from people that they are afraid that when they close their energy off for other people that it means they close their heart off as well. So there is no loving connection or flow of energy possible. I can tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way.
Closing your energy field ≠ closing your heart
And the same goes the other way around: opening your heart does not mean opening your energy field. When you open your heart you can establish a loving connection with someone else, really feeling the love, respect or appreciation you have for each other. When you open your energy field you invite in someone’s emotions, both positive and ‘negative’, and any energies they may be carrying with them. You don’t want to do that. You have plenty of work carrying your own energy and emotions around and work with that. There is no need and really no point in taking those of someone else on and be drained by that.
I have become an expert on being sensitive and no longer being held back by it. I have found that there are 3 foundational principles that enable me to get through the day in such a way that it is not only doable but pleasant.
I shared these 3 principles in my FREE TeleSeminar ‘Het Onmisbare Energie Management Systeem dat je helpt om je bedrijf te runnen zonder uitgeput te raken’. (in Dutch)
PS For those of you who don’t speak Dutch, receive access to the English version here