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This is how I lost myself

October 28, 2025

How do you lose yourself? Not all at once. Not in one dramatic moment. You lose yourself one decision, one step at a time—every instance you say "yes" when you mean "no". Every moment you take care of everyone else at your own expense. Every time you push through when your body is already exhausted. That’s…

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Our problems evolve—I almost made an old mistake

October 21, 2025

When I have a new idea, I tend to run with it. I need to stop myself when I’m writing new website copy—like I was doing last week. I'm so in the zone that I simply lose track of time. I forget to take breaks and end up eating way too late in the evening. In the past I did too much because I was perfectionistic a…

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No Man’s Land: What to do when you’re between phases

October 14, 2025

Last week I described that something was feeling off. Nothing felt right—like I didn’t fit in my own skin. And I gave myself permission to just be—without needing to fix anything. I often feel like this when I’m in transition. When things are shifting or changing or when I’m transforming into a new level o…

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When nothing feels right: your permission to just be

October 7, 2025

Sometimes nothing feels right. There isn’t necessarily anything specifically wrong either, but you feel like you don’t fit in your own skin. That’s how I’m feeling right now. I can’t yet place a finger on what’s off—and I don’t need to. All that’s required right now is giving myself space to be. …

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5 reasons why standing stil matters (especially when you’re busy!)

September 28, 2025

In this world where we’re always busy and running towards the next thing—checking things off our to-do list—we need to remember to take a moment to stand still. To take in the world. To enjoy where we’re at, what we’re doing and who we are with. I know, when you're super busy, pausing may feel like the las…

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How to shift from worry to appreciation: the future gratitude method

September 23, 2025

Summer has just officially given way to fall and I think we’re all hoping for an Indian summer.  At least I am. ;) The change of seasons made me pause and reflect on the past few months. I am so grateful for everything that transpired this summer. Shift your focus You may have heard me mention the importance of…

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What authenticity really means (and why it’s so hard)

September 16, 2025

Being ourselves isn’t always easy. It’s something we want most and often find hard to embrace. Because we’re afraid of what others might think. I’m often afraid of being too much. Too intense or laughing too loud. That last bit I happily blame on my mother. She’s extremely sensitive to sound and I apparent…

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7 ways my mentoring approach creates real breakthroughs

September 9, 2025

Recently someone asked me what makes me different. Why she should work with me and not someone else. Great question! I figured more people might be wondering the same so that’s why I’m sharing this with you today. Here are seven reasons why clients—from Olympic athletes to corporate leaders to sensitive creati…

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The 5-minute Happiness Test that reveals what’s draining your life

September 2, 2025

I believe life is meant to be enjoyed. But if we’re not careful we’re so busy with our to-do list and responsibilities that days and weeks string together. Before we know it, we’re busier doing things than enjoying them. That’s why I thought a Happiness Reality Check might be in order. To get clear on how ha…

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Stop revisiting your past—create your future instead

August 26, 2025

We’re creatures of habit. And once something has become routine it becomes hard to break out of that pattern. That’s why we need to be careful what we feed with our attention. I don’t believe in endlessly revisiting your childhood trauma, accidental failures and other disappointments for that reason. What you …

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