Shed Emotional Baggage

Emotional Baggage
I’ve seen it in this week’s workshop. It came up during client sessions. And even in a conversation with a colleague. Emotional Baggage. Stuff from the past. Experiences, beliefs, and scars we carry with us. Today is not about diving in why it happened, or what it has brought you. Today is about letting go of what no longer serves you. Release exactly those energies, behaviours and beliefs that you are ready to let go off. It’s warm, ... Read More

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You are exactly where you need to be

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Sometimes in life you feel sad or down and you can’t really put your finger on why you feel sad or down. Chances are you are disappointed, in yourself or others. You feel let down because something doesn’t come to pass as you hoped it would. Oh, do I know that one. It is painful and it can truly hurt deeply. It doesn’t matter what happened and who did or didn’t do something. It is about accepting this is where you are now, even if you don’t ... Read More
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The danger of internalizing emotions

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When you are emotional there are only two options. You either explode or you implode. In other words; you express your emotions or you keep them inside you. Often showing our true feelings is not (deemed) a possibility, so we focus our emotions inward—we internalize them. Let me explain. You’re in a situation where somehow something triggers sadness—and you want to cry. But you decide you can’t. So you want to cry but you don’t. Now there ... Read More
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Are you thinking the right thoughts?

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Men have 60.000 thoughts per day in 8-10 waking hours. Women have 80.000 thoughts. Don’t ask me why women have more thoughts, or how they figured that out ;) The main thing is that we think—a lot. And the question is: are you thinking about the right things? If you’re like me you’ve got plenty to do and you want to maximize your time. In support of that I invite you to do a little exercise. Grab a pen and piece of paper or open up a Word document ... Read More
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How to stop awfulizing

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I thought I was the only one who did it. Awfulizing. Thinking of terrible things that might happen—like daydreaming nightmares. You envision how people you love get hurt or die. You imagine how this client is not only unsatisfied but will write a hate-blog. You picture vividly how you will break something vital and can’t work or give that workshop. When in truth everyone is doing fine, nobody is unsatisfied, nothing is broken. So why do it? We ... Read More
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Collateral Beauty

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I recently watched the movie Collateral Beauty and it was heart-wrenchingly beautiful, and sad, and intense. Nevertheless, I recommend you watch it—just make sure you bring Kleenex. Perhaps it doesn’t impact you as it did me, but it hit me squarely. And it reminded me of an oracle card from Colette Baron-Reid—who has been my mentor several years ago. She wrote “Heartbreak is a strange healer of souls. Our grief strips away our masks and loosens ... Read More
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Do this one thing in 2017

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You are a human BEing. Not a human DOing. So why do we focus so much of our time and efforts on taking action after action, checking things off our To Do list? Our inner actions create 80% of our results, yet we spend the majority of our time trying to influence the remaining 20%. Why? I guess we all know why. It’s the way we grew up, how we’re educated, it’s how our society operates. You get rewarded for taking action, not for doing inner work ... Read More
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See with your heart, not your eyes

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There is a lot going on in the world. Plenty of reasons for fears to arise, cause for worry and panic—or so it seems. We tend to look at the physical world in order to evaluate how successful we are. Not just the world at large but especially you and your own goals. Are you on track? Did you accomplish what you desired for 2016? Where can you still find lack, or absence of something you want or need? And in order to find the answer we list things, ... Read More
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The key to create lasting change

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We all experience change. Small shifts, big transformations. At these moments we tend to think that from now on the world or our life will be different, even though we’ve might have been here before. Do you remember thinking: I’ve truly figured it out This time it’s different Now I found the missing link/step/insight I didn’t have before And then a few days or weeks later you realize not much has changed at all… I’ve been there and ... Read More
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Breaking the taboo [girls only]

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OK, so if you’re a guy you may not want to read this, but perhaps you should. Isn’t it strange that one of the most sacred things on this planet—creating new life—is revered, while the mechanism that makes this possible is shunned? When you’re pregnant you broadcast it to the world (after 12 weeks that is, you want to be ‘sure’—food for another article), but when a woman is having her period she’s not supposed to talk about it. I ... Read More
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The risk of feeling good

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Don’t get me wrong, feeling good is great. But there are moments where it can hamper you, when focusing on shifting your energy and feelings so you are in a positive state may, in fact, be detrimental. Feeling good is bad when: You are not acknowledging your pain Your emotions get stuck, or you stop the flow by focusing on something else You don’t learn from your ‘failure’ Bad things happen for a reason, because you screwed up or because you ... Read More
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