The danger of internalizing emotions

April 18, 2017

When you are emotional there are only two options. You either explode or you implode. In other words; you express your emotions or you keep them inside you. Often showing our true feelings is not (deemed) a possibility, so we focus our emotions inward—we internalize them. Let me explain. You’re in a situat…

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Are you thinking the right thoughts?

March 30, 2017

Men have 60.000 thoughts per day in 8-10 waking hours. Women have 80.000 thoughts. Don’t ask me why women have more thoughts, or how they figured that out ;) The main thing is that we think—a lot. And the question is: are you thinking about the right things? If you’re like me you’ve got plenty to do and y…

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How to stop awfulizing

February 28, 2017

I thought I was the only one who did it. Awfulizing. Thinking of terrible things that might happen—like daydreaming nightmares. You envision how people you love get hurt or die. You imagine how this client is not only unsatisfied but will write a hate-blog. You picture vividly how you will break something vital an…

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Collateral Beauty

January 18, 2017

I recently watched the movie Collateral Beauty and it was heart-wrenchingly beautiful, and sad, and intense. Nevertheless, I recommend you watch it—just make sure you bring Kleenex. Perhaps it doesn’t impact you as it did me, but it hit me squarely. And it reminded me of an oracle card from Colette Baron-Reid—…

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Do this one thing in the New Year

December 16, 2016

You are a human BEing. Not a human DOing. So why do we focus so much of our time and efforts on taking action after action, checking things off our To Do list? Our inner actions create 80% of our results, yet we spend the majority of our time trying to influence the remaining 20%. Why? I guess we all kno…

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See with your heart, not your eyes

November 17, 2016

There is a lot going on in the world. Plenty of reasons for fears to arise, cause for worry and panic—or so it seems. We tend to look at the physical world in order to evaluate how successful we are. Not just the world at large but especially you and your own goals. Are you on track? Did you accomplish what you de…

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The key to create lasting change

October 27, 2016

We all experience change. Small shifts, big transformations. At these moments we tend to think that from now on the world or our life will be different, even though we’ve might have been here before. Do you remember thinking: I’ve truly figured it out This time it’s different Now I found the missing link/…

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Breaking the taboo [girls only]

October 5, 2016

OK, so if you’re a guy you may not want to read this, but perhaps you should. Isn’t it strange that one of the most sacred things on this planet—creating new life—is revered, while the mechanism that makes this possible is shunned? When you’re pregnant you broadcast it to the world (after 12 weeks that …

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The risk of feeling good

September 30, 2016

Don’t get me wrong, feeling good is great. But there are moments where it can hamper you, when focusing on shifting your energy and feelings so you are in a positive state may, in fact, be detrimental. Feeling good is bad when: You are not acknowledging your pain Your emotions get stuck, or you stop the fl…

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Are YOU what you need?

September 16, 2016

It's 'easy' to blame others and much harder to take responsibility ourselves. We each play the lead in our own story and it’s often difficult to accept we are the common denominator in all our experiences. Which means that when you come across the same problem over and over again, guess what? It may be you. For mo…

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